Girls Night #300: How to Live Daily Life with your Best Friends — with Liz Forkin Bohannon
IN THIS PODCAST EPISODE YOU’LL LEARN:
Why most Americans have friendship completely backwards (and how to fix it)
The four pillars of building lasting community that actually work
How to find your people when you're starting from scratch in a new city
Why you need to commit to consistency BEFORE you feel connected (not after)
The "look for the losers" strategy that's more effective than trying to break into existing friend groups
How to have difficult conversations that deepen trust instead of damaging relationships
The science behind why friendship is literally a matter of life and death
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ABOUT THIS EPISODE
Hey friend! Welcome to Girls Night — your home as you navigate your Everything Era.
Have you ever scrolled through social media seeing friend groups traveling together and wondered, "How do they have that kind of community?," if you're tired of scheduling friend dates 30 days in advance, if you’ve ever felt like everyone else has their friend group figured out while you're still searching for yours, or moved to a new city and struggled to build meaningful connections beyond surface-level acquaintances, or wondered if deep, lasting adult friendships are actually possible or just something that happens in college… this episode is for you.
This week's podcast guest, Liz Forkin Bohannon, doesn't just talk about friendship and community—she lives it.
She literally lives next door to her best friends in Portland, sharing property with multiple families who've designed their entire lives around connection and mutual support.
And before you think "that sounds amazing but impossible," here's what rocked my world: Liz started exactly where most of us are. She moved to a new city knowing no one. She felt lonely and disconnected. She looked around and thought, "There has to be a better way to do life."
The difference? Instead of waiting for community to happen to her, she decided to build it.
So grab your coffee, put in those earbuds, and let's dive in.
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Quotes mentioned:
"Look for the losers. Look for the people that also don't have community and connection." - Liz Forkin Bohannon
"Trust and connection are not a prerequisite to consistency and commitment. Trust and connection are an outcome of consistency and commitment." - Liz Forkin Bohannon
"If you believe it takes a village, you actually have to be the one that makes the village." - Liz Forkin Bohannon
"People who see their friends three times a week or more report a life satisfaction increase that is equivalent to a $150,000 a year raise." - Liz Forkin Bohannon
"You don't wait for consensus to build community. You build relationship and you commit." - Liz Forkin Bohannon
"Community is actually just a bunch of people who feel connected to each other, and no one can actually do that for you." - Liz Forkin Bohannon
"We should never make our decisions about how we want to spend our time thinking about how we feel before we do something. We should only judge after we do the thing." - Liz Forkin Bohannon
"Pain is the hard things that happen in life. Suffering is the story that we attach to our pain." - Liz Forkin Bohannon
"Friendship and community can't keep us from pain, but it can insulate us from suffering." - Liz Forkin Bohannon
"The single greatest predictor of how long you will live, how physically healthy you will be, and how happy and fulfilled you are is the quality of your warm relationships." - Liz Forkin Bohannon
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