Girls Night #303: The Marriage Trick That Eliminates 90% of Your Arguments
IN THIS PODCAST EPISODE YOU’LL LEARN:
How to inventory and assign household tasks fairly
Why traditional gender roles don't have to dictate your marriage
Real examples of how Carl and Stephanie divide everything from laundry to meal planning
How to handle tasks you both hate (hint: outsourcing isn't just for the wealthy)
The importance of acknowledging and appreciating each other's contributions
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ABOUT THIS EPISODE
Ever wonder how happy couples actually divide up household tasks without constant arguments? In this candid conversation, Stephanie sits down with her husband Carl to reveal the ONE thing that transformed their marriage: figuring out who does what around the house.
After 11 years of marriage, they've cracked the code on avoiding resentment, eliminating daily arguments about chores, and creating a system that actually works. They share their real-life examples (including Carl's Marie Kondo folding methods vs. Stephanie's "bomb went off" approach), how they handle disagreements, and why clarity is the secret to feeling seen and appreciated.
Whether you're newlyweds, engaged, or just tired of fighting about the dishwasher, this episode gives you practical tools to create your own system that works for YOUR relationship.
If this episode helped you, please leave a quick rating and review - it makes such a difference in helping other couples find these conversations!
LINKS FROM THE SHOW
Fair Play by Eve Rodsky: [Book Link]
Eve Rodsky's Girls Night Interview: [Episode Link]
Just Married Course: stephaniemaywilson.com/justmarried
Household Tasks Spreadsheet (available to Just Married and Becoming Mama students)
Quotes mentioned:
"Marriage isn't a constant date night. There's so much to do in a life, but it's really hard to go on a date night or feel intimate with your partner when you're constantly angry or feeling unseen by these day-to-day things." - Stephanie May Wilson
"The place where resentment comes in the most is when someone is the default without their consent." - Stephanie May Wilson
"If we could give one marriage tip, this honestly might be mine. Figure out who does what in your marriage and assign it and have the conversation and make it official. This is your thing. This is my thing." - Stephanie May Wilson
"You don't have to figure out your life in isolation. The people who seem to have it all together? They have support systems." - Carl Wilson
"It's filling a pothole before it becomes a canyon. We're either shining up a brand new road or waiting until we have really serious problems." - Stephanie May Wilson
"How frustrating would it be at your job to do a job that takes 30 hours a week and have no one care or recognize it or just expect it to happen?" - Stephanie May Wilson
"Household management, regardless of how big your house is, is a job. And keeping track of it is a job in and of itself." - Carl Wilson
"If you want them to keep doing something, acknowledge and recognize and praise that thing. The ROI on that 30 seconds is way, way more." - Carl Wilson
"This clears all of that micro resentment that's just building up over time. We don't usually talk about it until something comes to a head." - Carl Wilson
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